Susan Lyne’s Leadership Tips
A few tips that helped her reach the top.
1. Don’t ever talk to someone angry. “Take a deep breath, and make sure you have the hard conversations when you’re ready to have them,” Susan advises. “Say, ‘Let’s book time tomorrow.’ Then prepare. I almost always make some notes if I know I have to have a tough conversation with someone.”
2. Remember that failure is not total. “I can’t tell you the number of times when I’ve thought, I so screwed this up, I’m never going to recover from it,” says Susan. “The truth is that if you work hard and you’re pretty smart and you make more good decisions than bad, a mistake is never fatal. I wish I’d known that when I started, because it would have saved me many sleepless nights.” To recover from a mistake, Susan suggests acknowledging it and quickly explaining how you’ll fix it and then moving on. “Don’t overapologize,” she says. “Don’t bring it up a month later. Let it go. Trust that you can make a good decision, even after you’ve made a bad one.”"
Most poignant part of By Invitation.
Imagine that! “Failure is not total” – wish I had realized that earlier when I wasn’t sleeping well.
The findings of this study do nothing to surprise me, but who says leisure time has increased in the US? Lies!
In short, she has made a sideline career for herself exhorting young women to “lean in” — to compete and strive in the workforce with a no-holds-barred attitude. For some people, this implies that Sandberg believes women can get whatever they want if they just work harder and believe in themselves more — that, somehow, the combination of ambition and confidence will melt away the barriers created by years of sexism in the workplace. They say that Sandberg has lived a charmed life, and doesn’t give enough credit to the extent that sexism can hold women back, regardless of their attitude. The New York Times summarizes this criticism by saying:
[S]ome say her aim-high message is a bit out of tune. Everyone agrees she is wickedly smart. But she has also been lucky, and has had powerful mentors along the way.
This may just be a “some say” gloss on criticisms of Sandberg, but it’s an unfortunately messy summary of her detractors. Luck, after all, is what too many women chalk up their success to, Sanberg has argued. Their male peers, in contrast, believe themselves to be “awesome” — fully deserving of their success."
SOLITUDE is out of fashion. Our companies, our schools and our culture are in thrall to an idea I call the New Groupthink, which holds that creativity and achievement come from an oddly gregarious place. Most of us now work in teams, in offices without walls, for managers who prize people skills above all. Lone geniuses are out. Collaboration is in.
But there’s a problem with this view. Research strongly suggests that people are more creative when they enjoy privacy and freedom from interruption. And the most spectacularly creative people in many fields are often introverted, according to studies by the psychologists Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and Gregory Feist. They’re extroverted enough to exchange and advance ideas, but see themselves as independent and individualistic. They’re not joiners by nature."